It’s the way you make me feel…
There is something to be said about downright natural ability vs. learned techniques. Some things you just can’t teach while other ‘lessons’ take a particular set of skills to perfect over time when it comes to the art of intimacy. Trust me there is actually an art to all of it. I don’t think I really believed that initially, but time and experience has taught me to know better.
I recently ear-hustled a conversation where a few ladies discussed the value of size over technique. One argued that no matter how big or how small, at the end of the day, the most important aspect of intimacy was communication, head-space, and touch for a woman. To this point, her more boisterous friend countered that the most important part was the technique. Honestly I could have agreed with both points. I mean who among us has not had that mind blowing encounter that left you wondering if you had just seen angles or the very disappointing exchange wishing you had made an entirely different decision to begin with- regret is best served cold. Either way, the ladies’ position was stated well and likely indicative of many a girlfriend discussion. However, I quickly learned the problem with ear-hustling is getting caught up in a discussion that is NOT yours. LOL It was time for me to mind my business. I thought I would bring the debate to our Can We Talk? Series forum. So I ask you, what’s more important for mind-bending intimate encounters?
A. Communication
B. Headspace or mental readiness
C. Touch
D. Skill or technique
E. Natural Swagger
At the end of the day, you can teach anyone how to love you as long as you love yourself first AND they are willing to take the time to learn what works for you. a little swagger and the right touch also helps
Beautiful begins underneath it all…
“Lingerie is not about seducing men; it’s about embracing womanhood. “ Dita Von Teese
Do you buy lingerie for yourself or for your significant other? The myth of falling in Love is that you meet this dude Prince Charming and somehow magically he will transform your world into a winter wonderland of pixie dust and fairies. SPOILERS: That ain’t real and never will be. However you want to paint it, if you can’t fall hopelessly in love with yourself and who you are from the inside out, you’ll never know what true love is and how to teach someone to cherish you. #believe that.
So what does that happen to do with lingerie, ML? Glad you asked. Many times women buy it with someone in mind and totally pass by the fact they can get it for themselves because your beautiful begins underneath— that goes for how you feel on the inside AND what you’re wearing to remind yourself of how sexy you truly are beginning with your undergarments! Don’t just stop there. Follow it up with some feel good oils and smell good serums to make your body feel like silk. My recommendations are Skinny Dip, Body Dew, and Coochy by Pure Romance
❤️ Lingerie and loungewear can be a contact sport. Are you connecting with yourself first?
Can We Talk? Series: Soulmates vs. Soul Ties
Give me that soul glow…
Does having a soul tie to someone constitute meeting your soulmate? Which is better?
They are both defined as follows:
Soul Tie - possessing a specifically emotional connection to someone after sharing a significant intimate moment or passionate/poignant bond.
Soulmate - person ideally suited to another as a close friend or romantic partner.
Soulmates and soul ties have different meanings for different folks, which can cover spiritual and non-spiritual aspects of one’s life.
What say you?
Is it better to give…
Hey y’all hey!!! Is everyone in the spirit of giving yet or nah? The holidays are upon us and it’s been really tricky for me. I’m all for the gift giving- I love shiny baubles and nice things so (don’t judge me). More than receiving shiny things, I love, Love, LOVE the fellowship of being with friends and family this time of year even more. ❤️ Just seeing them during this time of year and getting a chance to kick back, play games, eat, drink, and be merry is the best thing and to me what the season is all about. I was speaking to a friend earlier this week and we talked about GIFT or DO. The question was- What was the best gift you ever received and what made it the best? Likewise what was the best thing anyone you dated ever did for you that made you overwhelmingly happy....and why? Join us over on IG to find out what folks are saying ‘gift or do?’
Let’s talk about it.
Can We Talk? Series: Meet the Authors
Can We Talk? Series. (L-R) Brenda Welburn, Nora A Neal-Daggett, Michelle L. Brewington, Rachel C. Grante
It all started when…
Sunday, October 14, 2018. The Can We Talk? Series presented by ARThur Christine and Bangles and Brunch debuted with a warm gathering of friends and enthusiastic readers. The event was held at the beautifully designed and artistically curated Aperture Reston Station, which featured exquisitely designed sculptures and artwork throughout the space. It provided the perfect backdrop and atmosphere for a Sunday afternoon discussing books and the writing journey. The music, wine, and food built the ambiance and buzz between the attendees, who were ready to hear from the featured authors, Brenda Welburn, Nora A. Neal-Daggett, and yours truly.
The afternoon kicked off with networking and light conversation while enjoying the wine and food prepared by Karen Pope (Lily Marie’s). The attendees were excited to meet us and discuss our books and literary journeys and perspectives. Rachel Grante (ARThur Christine) hosted the afternoon’s discussion and opened the panel with an introduction of all of the authors. We are all clients of hers who decided to step out on faith and write. Brenda Welburn, author of The Time Travels of Annie Sesstry, provided insight into her family’s history and how that inspired her to write her young adult novel about African American experience and weaving into it time travel and historical reference. Nora A. Neal-Daggett, author of When Tears Have Voice, introduced her book on overcoming loss and the transformative value of walking through grief. I discussed my debut novel, Finding Sydney: A Romantic Suspense Novel,
In planning the panel discussion each of us wondered how a romance writer, young adult historical fiction writer, and a writer about loss and grief would come together in one book event. We wanted to tie the common threads together to present to the group. The things that initially seemed different turned out to be the very ties that bound us together- the journey of writing. We each shared our experience as published authors and how that has shaped our thoughts or further fueled our passions and inspirations, as well as our novels and individual. We laughed and shared with the group all of the ups and not-so-great moments of being an author. It was a wonderful afternoon of empowerment for each of us and for the attendees, who we later found were aspiring authors as well. The Can We Talk? Series’ inaugural debut was a complete success and we hope to participate in future panels.
To learn more about the authors, ARThur Christine or Bangles and Brunch, please connect with the following sources:
Authors
ML Brewington Books https://www.mlbrewingtonbooks.com/
Brenda Welburn https://www.brendawelburn.com/
Nora A. Neal-Daggett https://www.linkedin.com/noranealdaggett
Hosts
Rachel C. Grante http://arthurchristine.com/about/
Bangles and Brunch https://www.instagram.com/banglesnbrunch/
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